How to Convince a Senior Parent to Accept Help
BY KURT SAPP, ADMINISTRATOR, SEMINOLE SHORES LIVING CENTER, NORTON SHORES
Starting a conversation about senior care with a parent can make anyone feel uneasy. Adult children often delay bringing up the topic to avoid upsetting an elder they love.
In some cases, families don’t have a serious talk about the future until an accident or illness forces the discussion. If you wait until a crisis occurs, it will likely be even more stressful. A crisis may also force you to rush through the process of exploring your options. You are less likely to make an informed choice under duress.
Here are a few tips to help initiate a conversation about care.
Do your homework. Talk with a few home care agencies and even two or three senior living communities. You’ll feel more confident having a conversation with your parents when you better understand senior care as a whole.
Be mindful. When you are frightened about a loved one’s safety, it’s easy to become forceful and seem unsympathetic. That will likely put your parents on the defensive, especially if they aren’t receptive to making this change. By demonstrating patience and empathy, you might be able to open the dialogue.
Talk often. Despite how much an adult child might want the conversation to be quick and easy, it usually isn’t. In most circumstances, it will take a series of discussions over a few weeks or months.
Start small. If your parents are resistant, it might help to start small and find some middle ground. Will your father agree to wear an emergency alert pendant or watch? Maybe your mother would agree to a few hours of assistance with chores that might be a little risky, such as laundry, grocery shopping, and taking out the trash.
Enlist their physician. It may also help if your parents’ primary care physician can join the discussion. If it’s time for a physical or if your parents need follow-up from a previous diagnosis, seek the doctor’s input. Their influence might be what your parents need to hear to agree to make some changes.
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